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Reina Gattuso is a feminist journalist covering food, sex, and politics.
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Do It Better

Comfort Sex: Why It’s Great and How to Do It

Comfort sex can come from a desire to feel safe and forget about the outside world.

~ Reina Gattuso

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cuffing season
Do It Better

Sexy Self-Love If You’re Single This Snuggle Season

What’s a single person to do when cuffing season beckons?

~ Reina Gattuso

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dark side
Relationships

What to Do When You’ve Hurt Your Partner

Accountability, growth, and healing comes from confronting our dark sides in relationships.

~ Reina Gattuso

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should i get back together with my ex?
Relationships

When Is It Okay to Get Back Together With an Ex?

Is it possible to wipe the slate clean with a former lover?

~ Reina Gattuso

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vulnerability
Do It Better

The Pleasure and Peril of Being Sexually Vulnerable

How do we bring our full selves to intimacy and pleasure, in a world built to punish us for letting our guards down?

~ Reina Gattuso

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support mental illness
Relationships

Supporting a Partner With Mental Illness (And When It’s Okay to Leave)

Here’s how to care for a partner with mental illness, while respecting their agency and self-determination.

~ Reina Gattuso

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queer dating later in life
Relationships

Tips on Queer Dating When You Come Out Later in Life

How to navigate a later coming-out with resilience, joy, and plenty of orgasms.

~ Reina Gattuso

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how to be an ally
Culture

How to Become an Ally in Our Intimate Lives

Here’s how to build relationships in which we are accountable for our privileges and supported in our vulnerabilities.

~ Reina Gattuso

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Do It Better

A Guide to Respectful No-Strings-Attached Sex

Just because NSA sex isn’t romantic doesn’t mean we can cut corners on kindness and connection.

~ Reina Gattuso

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how to say no
Culture

How to Say “No” to Sex

Communicating what we don’t want is easier said than done.

~ Reina Gattuso

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single on valentine's day
Culture

How to Spend Valentine’s Day If You’re Single

Here are five ways to cultivate some genuine self-love this year.

~ Reina Gattuso

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sex after trauma
Health

How to Reclaim Your Sexuality After Trauma

Sexual trauma can change how we experience our bodies, our desires, and our sense of self. But there are ways to heal.

~ Reina Gattuso

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Do It Better

How to Orgasm Without Being Touched

Is it possible to orgasm without genital contact?

~ Reina Gattuso

Relationships

When Is a Couple’s Age Difference Too Much?

Do age differences always create power imbalances in relationships? Yes…but it’s complicated.

~ Reina Gattuso

Do It Better

How to Master Affirmative Consent (It’s Hot, We Promise)

Here are some flirty, dirty, and yes, occasionally awkward ways to practice enthusiastic consent.

~ Reina Gattuso

Do It Better

A Complete Guide to Post-Sex Cleanup

A thorough etiquette guide to the mess of sex.

~ Reina Gattuso

Relationships

How to Tell If Polyamory Is Really For You

Polyamory isn’t for everyone. Here’s how to tell if it fits with your emotional needs.

~ Reina Gattuso

Do It Better

Our Favorite Porn That’s Both Sexy and Ethical

There’s one fail-safe way to know the sex workers you love are getting the money they deserve: Pay them!

~ Reina Gattuso

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Culture

A Low-Grade Fever: On Aziz Ansari’s Comeback Netflix Special

A review of Aziz Ansari’s new special, Right Now.

~ Reina Gattuso

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