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Your November Sexoscopes

| 11/01/2020

Illustration by Sophi Gullbrants

Welcome to November, lovers! You may be feeling an energy hangover, from the full moon on Halloween to the double dose of Mars and Mercury retrograde, pummeling us toward Election Day in the height of Scorpio season. Expect the unexpected this month, as Mercury, Mars, and Neptune station direct. Trust the unfolding process, because things may not be what they seem. This year, Saturn has asked us to do the most we can with the least amount of physical resources, begging the question: What is really necessary in our lives? What are our core needs? According to Abraham Maslow, the baseline of human needs are physiological, such as food, water, shelter, and rest. That seems like a good place to start this month. During a time of incredible upheaval and uncertainty, take the opportunity to savor moments of joy, connection, and calm.

Scorpio energy can leave us feeling trapped in analysis paralysis, swimming in circles, overthinking each text message and emoji. When you find yourself in that place, breathe and extend yourself compassion; you’re not alone in your feelings. This is the time to ground down and compost the experiences of 2020 in order to fertilize the soil for rebuilding. You don’t need a perfect plan right now. Sexual expression is a fantastic stress reliever, so let pleasure be your compass, notice what feels good, and allow yourself to flow in that direction. The sun moves into expansive Sagittarius on the 22nd. Stay open to new directions that may present themselves, offering clues to the next steps you’re being asked to take.

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Scorpio & Scorpio Rising (October 23-November 21)

Happy solar return, Scorpio! This year has tested your capacity for transformation, and while you thrive in the intensity, you could use a break. Have you been allowing yourself time to rest, or have you been trying to outrun the storm? Notice where you are, and know it’s okay to be here and not where you think you should be. This is a moment in a much larger design that asks you to see the bigger picture without being able to view beyond the present moment. What is right in front of you that can be celebrated? If you must control something, channel that desire and let it fuel your erotic landscape. Playing with power dynamics is a healthy way to assert control, and practice surrender while creating the safety and intimacy you crave.

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Sagittarius & Sagittarius Rising (November 22-December 21)

Big shifts are happening behind the scenes, Sagittarius, even if things appear to be standing still. What may that stillness be trying to show you? Reflect on your experiences, notice the ways you’ve grown and expanded this year. You’re in the process of integrating new parts of yourself while saying goodbye to who you once were. Notice how your social circle shifted this year—this will give you clues to the parts of yourself you’ve outgrown to make room for who you are becoming. Your passionate nature will take you far, even if you’re not yet able to travel. Let your fantasies take you somewhere new, even if it’s just a different part of the house. Make it a game, by challenging yourself to have sex anywhere but the bedroom and see your space transform into the erotic retreat you’ve been wishing for.

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Capricorn & Capricorn Rising (Dec 22-Jan 20)

This year has been one of self-mastery for you, Capricorn, pushing you out of your comfort zone in so many ways. If you’ve been hard on yourself, thinking you should be doing and achieving more, relax. What you’ve been able to accomplish this year is laying the foundation for even more growth in the years to come. Part of the new foundation is knowing when to stop and rest, then accepting love and support. Finding balance between pleasure and productivity is paramount, as one supports the other, and you can’t do all the lifting on your own. Where is your joy? Reach out to your partners and community, and allow them to support you emotionally. Cultivate a container of pleasure you can dive into when you’re close to burnout.

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Aquarius & Aquarius Rising (January 21-February 18)

What drives you, Aquarius? It may be a blend of ambition, curiosity, and a sense of duty that pushes you along the current of achievement. Leave yourself plenty of room for experimentation this month, but speak up and take the lead when necessary. Don’t worry about having a plan, or having control. This energy wants to see if you can rise to the occasion when the situation requires your unique perspective. Relax and enjoy yourself, trusting that you can snap into action if needed. In order to show up as your best self, your nervous system needs a healthy dose of rest and pleasure. Notice what may turn you on by surprise when you tune into your desires, worrying less about what you have no control over and staying open to the novel experiences that await you.

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Pisces & Pisces Rising (February 19-March 20)

Expand your heart when you expand your horizons, Pisces. That may mean taking more walks, and noticing the way nature beautifully illustrates the seasons of human emotions, as the air cools and days become shorter. Savoring the daylight reminds you to savor the lightness within each moment. The darkness can feel heavy, but without fail, the light returns and shines for all. During this descent into the cold season, tune into your light. You may notice it most when you see it reflected in others, while sharing in mutual joy, warmth, and pleasure. Set the mood by building a fire or lighting candles, and take things a step further by playing with the hot wax if you’re open to turning up the intensity. Let your sensual creativity guide you.

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Aries & Aries Rising (March 21-April 19)

What is your relationship to power, Aries? True power may come from surrendering to what you cannot control. Work with the energy rather than against it when you find yourself struggling to push something forward in your work and relationships. Consider the bigger picture: What is the end goal? Most often it is security, both financial and emotional. While it’s wonderful to build secure foundations with someone else, it may be time to focus on strengthening your internal infrastructure to set you up for the expansion that is coming. Keep sex simple and fun, by focusing on your body and what its craving most. Naming those desires and channeling your energy into pleasure will do wonders for your overall wellbeing.

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Taurus & Taurus Rising (April 20-May 20)

Partnership may be on your mind this month, Taurus. Uncomplicated intimacy sounds easy, but it takes time and trust to build. Where do you find yourself at this time? Have you been doing most of the heavy lifting in your relationships? If there are frustrations or resentment present, take note and speak up. Perhaps it’s time to listen more to someone else’s needs and adjust your approach. This month the energy for achieving balance is available to you, so be present and aware of any imbalances and know that a little change goes a long way. Having the tough conversations opens up more room for connection and improving communication. Bring that energy into your erotic space and tell your lovers how you feel—it’s a turn-on for everyone.

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Gemini & Gemini Rising (May 21-June 20)

Shake up your daily routine, Gemini. Despite having 25 browser tabs open you may be feeling bored and understimulated. With all of the stress this year has brought, it’s important to find ways to bring levity to your day. Your mental health is directly tied to your physical health, and sexual health is a huge component of overall wellness. Give your mind the creative stimulation it craves by getting more physical activity into your day. This can be a quick walk around the block, a yoga class—or you can try something sexier. Maybe listen to an erotic podcast on that walk, or have an orgasmic lunch break quickie with yourself or a partner if you’re working from home together. Building sexy time into your routine doesn’t have to be a chore, but rather an erotic snack to look forward to.

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Cancer & Cancer Rising (June 21-July 22)

Feeling flirtatious and creative this month, Cancer? Make the most of your favorite season in the ways that bring you the most joy. This year has been intense—it’s okay to take a break from all of the emotional labor and indulge your playful side. Get back in touch with what makes you feel sexy and seen. Don’t wait for others to intuit your needs: Spell it out. Your partners will be happy to indulge you when you give them clear direction. Send it in a text message or write a steamy note and leave it on the mirror. Planting the seeds of desire builds tension and adds to the excitement when you open up and share in detail how you want to be pleased.

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Leo & Leo Rising (July 23-August 22)

Your fires may be burning low this month, Leo, but the flames are always ready to be reignited under the right circumstances. Don’t try to push yourself to be and do everything right now. This may be a great time to recharge by staying close to home; you have a lot on your mind and you may have already intuited this energetic shift. Each pause is a gift, so take this time to reflect on the good that exists in spite of the mess that exists in the world currently. Remember it’s not your job to solve everyone’s problems. The joy you share with others can’t come from a place of depletion. By taking time to rest and focus on your own pleasure, you are doing enough.

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Virgo & Virgo Rising (August 23-September 22)

Take stock in the journey, Virgo. Part of the process is sharing your story with others and connecting. Whether it’s with your family, your community, or within your partnerships, communication is key. What have you learned this year that you’re ready to share? Can you show yourself some love for how far you’ve come, rather than pointing out where you think you should be? Embrace where you’ve been and who you’ve become in the process; knowing this present moment is exactly where you’re meant to be. Grounding into your body by expressing your sexuality is a beautiful way to connect with your partners, and most importantly to yourself, as the heart aligns with the energy of the mind and body.

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Libra & Libra Rising (September 23-October 22)

What have you learned this year about yourself through the lens of your relationships, Libra? While the world around you has been chaotic, where have you been able to come home to yourself? This year has been teaching you how to value your gifts, urging you to use them to make meaningful contributions to the collective in your own unique way. You’ve also been asked to seek inner balance by seeing the disharmony and injustice that exists in the outer world. What pulls at you strongly is showing you where your contribution is needed most. Embrace the beauty and indulge in the pleasure you’ve cultivated knowing creating value and sharing it will always bring you greater satisfaction than accumulation.

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