September Sexoscopes

| 09/01/2019

Feature illustration by Sophi Gullbrants; other illustrations by D Zhou

Welcome to Virgo season, lovers! As the final notes of summer fade into the background, we collectively fantasize about the most beloved season, fall. On a mundane level, we sort and sift through our closets, plan our perfect wardrobes and fall photo ops. Calendars are adjusted, new routines set, and organization in general feels sexy right now.

This is all thanks to Mars and Venus meeting up with the sun in diligent earth sign, Virgo, for most of the month. Virgo energy is grounded, analytical, and sometimes in danger of getting caught up in its own perfectionist tendencies. Try to remain objective about what you would like to accomplish and what you actually have energy for. The gift of Virgo season is re-establishing personal boundaries: creating solid foundations for ourselves and our loved ones, while taking action from a practical place.

We may notice a shift in our relationships at this time, as we move from over-the-top romantic gestures of Leo season and settle into Virgo’s practical routines. Things may not feel as exciting or spontaneous, but fear not, there is much to be said for building stability within our partnerships. Showing up for ourselves with healthy commitment calls that same loving energy back to us. Focus on recommitting to wellness this month. Your physical body needs nourishment in all areas, including your mental and sexual wellbeing. Notice any discrepancies. Ask yourself: What do you need more of? Your body will always tell you the truth.

The sun moves into social air sign, Libra, on September 23rd, shifting our focus to creating and allowing more harmony, balance, and beauty in our relationships. Libra is ruled by aesthetically pleasing Venus, so expect a boost in areas of finance, romance, and artistic projects. Opportunities to expand are always around us; the trick is believing in ourselves in spite of fear. The planets may be aligned to bring incredible partnerships, but we have to do our part to put ourselves into the spotlight to receive.

Virgo & Virgo Rising (August 23-September 22)

Happy solar return, Virgo! You’ve had quite a summer, perhaps experiencing new love and new job opportunities that came from very unexpected circumstances. This may have left you feeling out of control, out of your comfort zone, and yet, surprisingly happy with the cosmic intervention. You’re always willing to help everyone you care about – what feels uncomfortable is accepting help in return. The universe needed to take the wheel, offering you a break to rebalance your naturally giving nature, teaching you how to receive.

This month the spotlight is shining on you, with the sun, Mars, and Venus lighting up your first house. Indulge in your favorite forms of self-care, and show the world your unique beauty. Take your lover to your favorite yoga class: Getting sweaty together builds intimacy, while stimulating both the body and mind. Keep the energy going afterwards by connecting in the shower. Getting dirty is fun, but the clean-up is a ritual unto itself.

Libra & Libra Rising (September 23-October 22)

The summer was just the reset you needed, Libra, after the intensity of the past year. This month completes the cycle of transformation regarding your self-worth, and how you show up in relationships. Saying goodbye to partners who aren’t in alignment means saying hello to yourself on a deeper level. With the sun, Mars, and Venus in your private 12th house, take this time to focus on loving yourself in the ways you want to be loved. Great sex and deep intimacy are yours to enjoy with someone when you know how to experience it on your own.

This practice doesn’t end when we’re with someone we care about, so give solo sex the same focus and attention you give to partnered sex. Masturbation doesn’t have to be a quickie. When you’re feeling yourself, carve out some extra time to really feel yourself. Use your hands, watch yourself in the mirror, notice how your body responds to your own touch. Marvel at your beauty the way a lover would, take your time, tease yourself, make it an event. Take yourself out for ice cream afterwards.

Scorpio & Scorpio Rising (October 23-November 21)

Expand your network this month, Scorpio. Last month you put your heart into your work, getting yourself into the spotlight in new ways. Take advantage of the planetary action in your 11th house of friendships and social networking. This month the hustle continues, but if it isn’t fun and fulfilling, it’s not where you should be putting your energy. The sun, Mars, and Venus, in taskmaster Virgo, want to make sure you’re checking off everything on your to-do list.

Don’t forget that making time for pleasure is also on that list, including subcategories explicitly detailing all of your fantasies. There is no shortage of eager partners awaiting your attention, although your intensity may be too polarizing for those whohaven’t explored their own erotic depths, and it isn’t your job to show them the way. By the time the sun moves into Libra towards the end of the month, you’ll already know who to bring into your inner circle and who to leave on read.

Sagittarius & Sagittarius Rising (November 22-December 21)

This month could mean big things for your career, Sagittarius! The Virgo action is taking place in your 10th house of career and public recognition. When the sun meets up with Mars and Venus, you could be mixing business with pleasure, and meeting someone through the work you do. This could be romantic, or else the energy is putting you in an excellent position to receive a promotion or even launch a new business venture. Wherever you find yourself, this isn’t the month to play small.

Use your natural enthusiasm to put yourself out there: You aren’t typically the shy one, so don’t second guess yourself. When it comes to relationships, your adventurous spirit tends to attract lovers who wish they were more like you, not necessarily the types that can run free alongside you. Sorting out the difference between the two will be a theme of Libra season for you. You’re going exciting places! Free up space for thrill seekers who want to go the distance with you.

Capricorn & Capricorn Rising (December 22-January 20)

Knowledge is power, and a sexy mind is a major turn-on for you, Capricorn. This month, the sun, Mars, and Venus start out in fellow earth sign, Virgo, in your 9th house of travel and higher education. Expansion may come through travel, but that also applies to traveling the mind. What are you curious to learn more about? Not that you needed another subject to study–your plate is already full–but this opportunity comes in the form of something you’re passionate about.

When you follow your bliss, you will stumble onto new outlets to revitalize your spirit. This also brings you in contact with like-minded people who are serious about the same things you are. It’s refreshing to be inspired, and to experience it with someone else. This may bring a new love into your life, or rekindle an existing romance that was in need of a boost. Enjoy the earthy energy with loads of physical touch, experiment with sensations. Don’t be afraid to get rough (Virgo and Capricorn are surprisingly kinky), just make sure your partner is on board.

Aquarius & Aquarius Rising (January 21-February 18)

You’re not afraid to get deep, Aquarius. Your approach to feelings is through analysis, which can prevent you from connecting to your partners. It’s not that you don’t have the capacity to feel–sadly, many misunderstand your methods of processing emotions. This month, the sun, Mars, and Venus are moving through your 8th house of intimacy, encouraging transformative experiences around love and sex. This will push your boundaries and show you what vulnerability can do for your relationships.

While the energy is in Virgo, know that whomever you’re doing this work with is trustworthy and capable of holding space for your heart. Speak up about what turns you on, and allow yourself to physically experience the fantasies that run through your mind. Your partners are more enthusiastic and experimental than you give them credit for; they may even shock and surprise you.

Pisces & Pisces Rising (February 19-March 20)

The sun, along with Mars and Venus, spend most of this month in your polar opposite sign of Virgo, in your 7th house of partnerships, Pisces. Earth energy gifts you with the opportunity to give form to what is formless. You’re always more than willing to do whatever is necessary to show your devotion when it comes to emotional support, but how can you show up physically for those you love?

If there has been an imbalance in your partnerships, this is the perfect time to tip the scales, so both parties are giving and receiving what is needed to thrive. Stability isn’t the killer of romance, it merely creates a container for more love to bloom. This is potentially an incredible time to take your relationships to a deeper level, or call in more fulfilling partners, especially as Venus and the sun move into Libra, mid-month. Stay open to allowing what your heart desires to come to you, and trust that you’re ready for it.

Aries & Aries Rising (March 21-April 19)

Your health and wellbeing are the big focus this month, Aries. The sun, Mars, and Venus are lighting up your 6th house of health and daily routine. This is a great time to try a new exercise outlet; swap a pole class in place of your usual yoga or crossfit. It’s not about logging gym hours, but rather about getting really in touch with the way you process energy and emotions through your body.

Having a new outlet to express yourself and be seen spills into other areas of life, and your partners will be taking notice. You’ve always had stamina for days in the bedroom; now try turning the heat up by adding some moves you pick up in class, and really put on a show. Having an audience is the ultimate turn-on, but this is for you. Your relationship with your body and self-image are always the most important relationship you’ll ever be in. Sexy is a mindset–get in touch with yours this month.

Taurus & Taurus Rising (April 20-May 20)

Get romantic this month, Taurus. The sun, Mars, and Venus, in fellow earth sign, Virgo, are posted up in your 5th house of creativity and dating. This is a great time for meeting someone new. That said, there is no need to rush or push to make connections happen. The energy is already there–all you have to do is live your life, while staying open to all possibilities.

Say yes to the invitations that come your way. If your energetically ready for love, there is no way it won’t find you. For those who are coupled, get creative and do something different this month–in all areas. Shaking up routine date nights helps you and your partner see another side of the relationship, which leads to more spontaneity in and outside of the bedroom. Maybe try a sex challenge, where each of you comes up with a different fantasy or activity to introduce into the rotation. Make sure you come up with a reward system for trying something new.

Gemini & Gemini Rising (May 21-June 20)

You may find yourself sticking close to home this month, Gemini. The sun, Mars, and Venus in Virgo are in your 4th house of home and family. This could inspire you to declutter, and get rid of the clothes you’ve been hanging onto for too long. No need to save it for a special occasion, wear it now or let it go to someone else who will love it. Clearing space in your physical environment helps declutter your mind, opening you up to fresh new ideas and opportunities.

Just because your mind and home are getting a makeover, doesn’t mean there won’t be plenty of time for pleasure. Are there any areas of your sex life that are ready for a glow-up? Now that you’ve freed up some space, treat yourself to something luxurious that speaks to your sensual side. Maybe upgrade your toy collection or invest in some new underthings. You don’t need a special occasion to wear something that makes you feel sexy, or anyone to tell you how amazing you are. Wear it, own it, embody it–right now.

Cancer & Cancer Rising (June 21-July 22)

Speak from your heart this month, Cancer. The sun, Mars, and Venus in grounded earth sign, Virgo, are in your 3rd house of communications. This is a great time to connect with people on a deeper level, as you’ll have greater access to putting your feelings into words. This can also be fun for experimenting with talking dirty. Start slowly by sending some racy texts, building up tension throughout the day by detailing exactly what you want your lover to do to you. This is a great way to have an indirect conversation, by asking for your needs to be met without feeling uncomfortable in the moment.

Empower yourself, and your lover, by giving explicit instructions on how you like to be touched, how it good it feels when they are doing it, and you’d love it if they did something else. Putting it into text takes the pressure off, while reframing your desires in a way that feels sexy for both of you.

Leo & Leo Rising (July 23-August 22)

You may be feeling exhausted from last month, Leo. Go ahead and rest: You’ll have plenty of time and energy to tackle your budget while the Virgo sun, Mars, and Venus are in your 2nd house of finances and value. Use the first couple of weeks of the month to reorganize your money before treating yourself to that new fall wardrobe. Don’t worry, it isn’t all work and no play. The sun and Venus move into romantic air sign Libra mid-month, shifting your focus from financial planning back to the flirtatious spotlight you love.

Make sure you’re balancing extravagance with healthy limits; keeping your spending in check this month will have lasting implications for the future. Treating yourself in the bedroom will more than make up for the effort you’ve put into saving in other areas. Pamper yourself and your lovers with affection by having a DIY spa night, complete with massages and face masks. Take a candlelit shower afterwards, slowly wash each other’s hair, and rinse away any leftover oils. Intimacy doesn’t have to be pricey.

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